Let me start by saying this: my house is not always clean. If you show up unannounced, there is a solid chance you’ll be greeted by a pile of laundry, a rogue sock stuck to the wall (don’t ask), and at least one child asking for a snack they just had.
But somehow—somehow—we keep things under control most days. Not Pinterest-perfect… more like “no one will call child services” clean. And honestly? That’s a win.
Here’s how I do it.
1. Lower the Bar (Like… A Lot)
Before kids, “clean” meant spotless counters, vacuum lines, and everything in its place.
Now? Clean means:
- No one is sticking to the floor
- You can sit on the couch without moving 12 things
- The house doesn’t smell like mystery yogurt
Adjusting your expectations is step one. Survival is the goal. Sparkle is a bonus.
2. Baskets Are My Personality Now
I don’t organize. I contain.
Every room in my house has a designated “throw it in and deal with it later” basket. Toys? Basket. Random papers? Basket. Things I found in places they absolutely should not be? Basket.
As for toys, any of the basketed toys, you can only bring one tub out at a time. Helps keep all the pieces together and helps keep the clutter chaos at bay.
At the end of the day, I can do a quick sweep and toss everything where it belongs-ish. It’s not perfect, but it looks like I tried—and sometimes that’s enough.
I love these waffle containers with lids to keep the pantry organized. I use these plastic bins to keep toys organized and I use the soft sided baskets as a catch all for each room.
3. I Clean in 10-Minute Sprints
I used to think I needed a full uninterrupted hour to clean. LOL. That was before children.
Now I clean in short bursts:
- 10 minutes while the kids are distracted
- 5 minutes before we leave the house
- 7 minutes before I sit down because if I sit, it’s over
I buy clorox free and clear wipes in bulk and have one in every room, they are kid and pet safe, and even food surface safe. I love my shark vacuum, it’s light weight, easy to use and empty and very efficient in quick cleans. I also love my tineco mop vacuum, two year olds like to spill things. Just always to remember to empty the dirty tank, otherwise it’ll stink.
You’d be shocked what you can get done when you’re racing against the clock like it’s a game show.
I also love a quick 10 minute workout, I find I commit to it more if it’s quick or while I’m doing something else. I live on my walking pad. I’m actually on it as I’m writing this.
4. If It Takes Less Than a Minute, I Do It Immediately
This rule has saved me from complete chaos.
Wipe the counter? Do it now.
Put shoes away? Now.
Throw away that snack wrapper someone abandoned? Definitely now.
These tiny actions keep messes from snowballing into a situation that requires emotional support and a full cleaning day.
5. I Make My Kids Help (Yes, Even the Little Ones)
Are they good at cleaning? No.
Do they make it take longer? Also yes.
Do I still make them help? Absolutely.
Because one day they will move out and hopefully not live like raccoons.
We keep it simple:
- Toy pickup races (my kids love this)
- “Who can clean the fastest” challenges
- Bribes… I mean, incentives
I orginally started with the dry erase chore charts, but since have upgraded to the bougier digital chore chart. It literally keeps life organized, from chores to baseball practice to meal prep and grocery lists. It is the only way I can keep up with life and 4 kids and a busy husband.
6. I Have Cleaning “Shortcuts” in Every Room
The key is not having to go far to clean something.
I keep:
- Wipes in multiple rooms
- A handheld vacuum nearby
- Cleaning sprays where I actually use them
The invention of the robo vacuum is the most epic mom hack I have ever experienced. I have two, we have named them- Darla and Jack. My only issue currently is the toddler tries to chase it or pick it up. We loved the robo vac so much that we decided to get a robo lawn mower. It’s on the way so I’m hoping we love that just as much.
If it’s easy to grab or I don’t have to touch it at all, I’m way more likely to use it.
7. I Focus on the High-Impact Areas
Not everything needs to be clean all the time.
I focus on:
- Kitchen counters
- Living room floors
- Bathrooms (for obvious reasons)
If those are handled, the house feels clean—even if there are toys hiding in every corner.
8. I Reset the House Every Night (…or Most Nights)
Before bed, I do a quick reset:
- Load the dishwasher
- Pick up the main living area
- Start a load of laundry
It’s not a deep clean, but waking up to a semi-put-together house makes the next day feel way less chaotic. In the morning before I wake the kids, I fold the laundry from the night before and expect them to put it away before we go to school.
Final Thoughts: It’s Controlled Chaos—and That’s Okay
Having 4 young kids means your house is going to be lived in. Loudly. Messily. Constantly.
But with a few systems, a sense of humor, and a willingness to accept “clean enough,” you can stay on top of it without losing your mind.
Or at least… without losing it completely.
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